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Topic: Mythomania- When Lies Become a Shelter, and Truth Feels Like Pain
. There is a kind of pain people don’t talk about…

A mind that no longer knows how to live in truth. 
Not because truth is missing — 
but because truth feels too heavy to carry. Some people don’t lie to destroy others… they lie to survive themselves.

And slowly, without noticing…
 the lie becomes easier than reality.
 Who comes to your mind? Scammers? Are they related to you?
Let’s dissect this topic, today.

A “mythomaniac” (more correctly mythomania) isn’t just someone who lies a lot — it usually reflects a deeper psychological pattern (compulsive lying behaviour) where lying becomes automatic, habitual, or even comforting.

What do I mean by COMPULSIVE BEHAVIOUR?
Compulsive behaviour is a pattern of actions that a person feels driven or forced to repeat, even when they don’t want to and even when it may have negative consequences. So, mythomania (compulsive lying) can overlap with traits seen in different personality patterns, such as:

1. Narcissistic traits: need for admiration, exaggerating achievements, creating a grand image

2. Borderline traits: unstable identity, emotional insecurity, fear-driven storytelling
3. Histrionic traits: attention-seeking, dramatic and emotional storytelling
   
   Now just imagine, 1 person who is a narcissist (which we often talk about) add borderline disorder and then you add histrionic disorders.
   ALL in ONE person!
   Take a minute and think of a person or people with these traits. Scary right? Mmmmhhh. Are they living with you or sitting right next to you, everyday? Take a deep breath. It gets deeper. SCARED?
   BREATHE, brethren. BREATHE.
   Now that it sounds scary enough and we hardly talk about this excessive lying disorder, it becomes important to identify. HOW TO SPOT A MYTHOMINIAC.
   Spotting mythomania is not about catching someone in a single lie — it’s about noticing a pattern over time, REMEMBER?… And even then, it’s important to be careful, because only a mental health professional can properly assess it, but diagnosis is not farfetched.
   Here are common signs and patterns: • Frequent, unnecessary exaggeration
• They often tell stories that are:
• Overly dramatic or unrealistic
• Too perfect, too tragic, or too impressive
• Changing slightly every time they repeat them
• Inconsistency in their stories

• Details don’t match over time

• They contradict themselves without noticing
• Lying even when there’s no benefit

• Facts shift depending on the audience
• They may lie about small, unimportant things
• Even when truth would be easier or safer
• Blurred line between truth and fiction

• They may start believing parts of their own stories
• Reality and imagination become mixed

• Strong need for attention or validation
• Stories are often designed to impress, gain sympathy, or avoid rejection
• They may feel uncomfortable being “ordinary”
• Lack of clear remorse (or confusion instead of guilt)
• They may not fully understand why they lie so much
• Or they justify it as “just how things are”

What causes a person to be or become mythomania?


There isn’t one single cause. It’s usually a mix of factors:

1. Low self-esteem
Some people feel “not enough” as they are, so they create a more impressive version of themselves through stories. Over time, the false version feels safer than the real one.
   2. Emotional neglect or childhood trauma
. If someone grew up feeling ignored, criticised, or unsafe, they may learn to use storytelling as a way to gain attention, approval, or protection.
   3. Need for validation
Lies can become a shortcut to feeling important, loved, respected, or admired—especially when someone feels invisible in real life.
      4. Habit formation (compulsive behavior) 
At first, lies may be intentional. But over time, the brain can turn it into an automatic response. The person may lie without thinking deeply about it.
         5. Personality or psychological disorders Mythomania can appear alongside conditions like:
• Narcissistic traits (need for admiration)
• Borderline traits (fear of abandonment)
• Antisocial traits (manipulation patterns in some cases)
            6. Identity confusion
. Some individuals struggle to maintain a stable sense of self, so they “try on” different identities through stories until reality and fiction blur. The person may:
• Lie even when the truth would be easier
• Build entire worlds that never existed
• Begin to believe parts of their own fabrications • Damage trust in relationships without fully understanding why
               And the most devastating part?
 They don’t always feel in control of it. Behind the behaviour, there is often:
               broken self-esteem, emotional trauma, fear of rejection, or a desperate need to be seen as “enough or living a “HIGH LIFE”.
               But mythomania does not only harm the person telling the lies…
               It destroys trust, fractures families, collapses relationships, and leaves people around them questioning reality itself. These people are our brothers, lovers, husbands, grandfathers, etc, … they live amongst us, every day.
               The truth is simple but painful:
               When truth becomes optional, reality becomes unstable.
               Can a mythomaniac heal? My word!!! 
Yes. But not easily. 
Because healing requires something most mythomaniacs fear deeply:
               Being exposed without a story to hide behind. It requires:
• Facing uncomfortable truths without escape • Accepting shame without running into fabrication
• Learning to exist without exaggeration or illusion
• Rebuilding an identity from what is real, not what is impressive 
•And that is where the battle is fought. Feel the relief naturally, with Queen.